Sexuality is a vital part of being human. At its best, it’s a source of life-force, creativity, and exploration. When it feels blocked—whether by shame, trauma, relationship struggles, or the pressures of daily life—it can affect far more than intimacy. It can touch confidence, relationships, and even your sense of self.
Sex therapy offers a safe, compassionate space to explore these challenges and rediscover what sexuality can mean for you.
What Is Sex Therapy?
Sex therapy is a specialized form of talk therapy designed to help you understand, heal, and grow in the areas of sexuality and intimacy.
- Therapy is safe, private, and respectful. There is no physical contact or nudity in sessions. Any practices or exercises are things you’ll do privately, outside of therapy.
- The focus is on helping you clarify what feels stuck, heal what has been hurt, and move toward a fuller experience of intimacy—both with yourself and others.
- You won’t be judged. Hopes, desires, shame, confusion, identity, cultural expectations – these are all part of the dialogue.
When Sex Therapy Can Help
Sex therapy may be useful if you’re navigating:
- Low or absent sexual desire
- Differences in desire between partners
- Arousal or orgasm difficulties
- Painful sex/intercourse
- Recovery from sexual trauma or painful past experiences
- Shame, guilt, or internal conflict about sexuality
- Performance anxiety
- Identity or orientation questions
- Cultural, spiritual, or religious conflicts/questions around sexuality
- Navigating fertility or its impact on sexuality and intimacy
- Challenges with intimacy after loss, illness, or life transitions
My approach
My style is warm, collaborative, and grounded in experiential and attachment-based theories. Together, we’ll not just talk about your concerns but also create space to feel and notice what’s happening emotionally and in your body (somatically) in the present moment. This allows change to happen in a deeper, lived way.
We’ll look at:
- Emotional/Somatic Side
How feelings and body sensations hold memory, desire, or fear. We’ll explore these signals gently, using them as guides for healing and reconnection. - Relational/Attachment Side
How early attachment patterns—and the ways you’ve learned to connect and be vulnerable (or not) —shape intimacy and sexuality today. We’ll work to strengthen trust, safety, and connection (with yourself and, if relevant, with your partner). - Experiential Side
Therapy will include new experiences of self-expression and reflection—ways to try out new perspectives, experiment with language, and engage with your inner world beyond problem-solving alone. - Physical Side
Considering medical conditions, hormonal shifts, or physical changes that may play a role. Exploring issues related to lifecycle changes, aging, and illness such as pregnancy, menopause, and cancer. - Cultural Side
Exploring the norms, messages, and pressures you live with – how they shaped your sense of what sexuality “should” be.
This wholistic approach helps you move beyond old narratives and into a freer, more integrated experience of sexuality.
For Individuals and Couples
Many people begin sex therapy individually to build self-understanding and confidence. Others prefer to work as a couple from the start, especially when intimacy challenges are shared. Either way, therapy is tailored to your needs:
- Individuals: reclaim your sexuality as a source of vitality, creativity, and self-acceptance.
- Couples: deepen communication, heal old wounds, and create new patterns of closeness and pleasure together.
Why this work matters
When sexuality is burdened by shame, silence, or pain, it can feel like a door to joy and vitality has been shut. Sex therapy helps reopen that door—so sexuality can once again feel like a source of connection, aliveness, and possibility.
Next Steps
If you’re ready to begin exploring your sexual self—whether individually or with a partner—I’d be honored to walk with you. Reach out for a consultation, and we’ll talk about whether sex therapy is the right next step for you.